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Post by Lotsofquestions on Sept 29, 2015 12:33:54 GMT -8
Im not sure who checks this thing, but internet here I go. Sometime I don't quite understand my sexuality, like I know that I might not be straight, but then I don't exactly fit in with any of the other letters, and sometimes I feel like my sexuality changes. For example, I can be straight for some time and actually be straight during those periods, but then something changes, and I feel gay or bi or something. It's very confusing to me, and I wanted to know if anyone else experienced this? Sometimes I feel like in intruder when I call myself queer, but at the same time I'm not really straight, and I wonder if I'm ever going to figure it out. How do you all know what your sexuality is?
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Post by therock on Oct 15, 2015 10:54:16 GMT -8
Hi Anon! My short answer to this is that sexuality is fluid! I know I felt this way when first questioning my sexuality, and felt almost like I wasn't "bi enough" to identify as that. Your sexuality and/or romantic orientation does not have to be fixed. If you're attracted to folks of one gender one day and another the next, cool. I personally use Queer as an umbrella term, so sometimes when I'm feeling less like I fit under one label I identify as that. You don't have to put a label on your sexuality, either. Some people find it really restrictive, and so choose not to name themselves. I've found that PRIDE (and if you identify as a woman like me, Queer Women of USD) is a great community that doesn't force labels. We actually had a good discussion a few weeks ago about the pros and cons of labeling sexualities. There are so many different perspectives on what to do, and it really comes down to personal preference. As to the intruder feeling, I know I can definitely relate. Even though sometimes it seems like there's a "who's the gayest" competition, wherever you fall on the spectrum is completely valid. PRIDE tries to make a safe space for any sexuality, and we're generally pretty good. If you want to hash this out or discuss it more, PRIDE's discussion group is a great place. You can anonymously submit topics to Melissa Halter (wellness@sandiego.edu) and just show up, eat pizza, and listen (though we encourage adding your two cents to the discussion  ). You can also talk to PRIDE's Recruitment and Outreach Coordinator (shameless plug cuz that's me haha). We'll all keep it completely confidential (and if you want to text me I won't even know who you are). My name's Emma, and you can reach me at 206-399-1170 or emmamoran@sandiego.edu Thanks for reaching out! Emma |
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). You can also talk to PRIDE's Recruitment and Outreach Coordinator (shameless plug cuz that's me haha). We'll all keep it completely confidential (and if you want to text me I won't even know who you are). My name's Emma, and you can reach me at 206-399-1170 or emmamoran@sandiego.edu